Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Most people won't do it...

A few years back, I was introduced to an audio CD called The Strangest Secret. A gentleman by the name of Earl Nightengale recorded it way before I was born. The words of the recording are timeless! From now until infinity, what he spoke of on that recording will be true. There is no way of getting around it.

Later, I found the same recording in writing! Did you know that the brain processes what you read and what you hear differently? Well, I read the words of the exact came recording I listened to years ago, and it had an even larger impact on my life! Some may argue that it was because of the personal growth I had experienced between hearing and reading it. While there may be some validity there, I think that the main reason I was hit harder by it the second time around was because of the mental processing that it took to read the words of The Strangest Secret.

Here is where the rubber meets the road...

The reason that I entitled this blog entry "Most people won't do it..." is because most people that come to this page won't take the time to read what I am about to lay out before you. This one piece of material is partially responsible for my success. Who knows what impact it may have on you. The only way to find out is if you read it... but most of you won't. No further delay is necessary. Please read, enjoy, and put into action Earl Nightengale's Strangest Secret.

The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightengale

Do you know what will happen to 100 individuals who start even at the age of 25, and
who believe they will be successful? By the age of 65, only five out of 100 will make
the grade! Why do so many fail? What happened to the sparkle that was there when
they were 25? What became of their dreams, their hopes, their plans ... and why is
there such a large disparity between what theses people intended to do and what they
actually accomplished? That is ... The Strangest Secret.
Some years ago, the late Nobel prize-winning Dr. Albert Schweitzer was asked by a
reporter, “Doctor, what’s wrong with men today?; The great doctor was silent a
moment, and then he said, “Men simply don’t think!”
It’s about this that I want to talk with you. We live today in a golden age. This is an
era that humanity has looked forward to, dreamed of, and worked toward for
thousands of years. We live in the richest era that ever existed on the face of the earth
... a land of abundant opportunity for everyone.
However, if you take 100 individuals who start even at the age of 25, do you have any
idea what will happen to those men and women by the time they’re 65? These 100
people believe they’re going to be successful. They are eager toward life, there is a
certain sparkle in their eye, an erectness to their carriage, and life seems like a pretty
interesting adventure to them.
But by the time they’re 65, only one will be rich, four will be financially independent,
five will still be working, and 54 will be broke — depending on others for life’s
Only five out of 100 make the grade! Why do so many fail? What has happened to the
sparkle that was there when they were 25? What has become of the dreams, the hopes,
the plans ... and why is there such a large disparity between what these people
intended to do and what they actually accomplished?THE DEFINITION OF SUCCESS
First, we have to define success and here is the best definition I’ve ever been able to
find: “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”
A success is the school teacher who is teaching because that’s what he or she wants to
do. A success is the entrepreneur who start his own company because that was his
dream — that’s what he wanted to do. A success is the salesperson who wants to
become the best salesperson in his or her company and sets forth on the pursuit of that
A success is anyone who is realizing a worthy predetermined ideal, because that’s
what he or she decided to do ... deliberately. But only one out of 20 does that! The rest
are “failures.”
Rollo May, the distinguished psychiatrist, wrote a wonderful book called Man’s
Search for Himself, and in this book he says: “The opposite of courage in our society
is not cowardice … it is conformity.” And there you have the reason for so many
failures. Conformity — people acting like everyone else, without knowing why or
where they are going.
We learn to read by the time we’re seven. We learn to make a living by the time we’re
30. Often by that time we’re not only making a living, we’re supporting a family. And
yet by the time we’re 65, we haven’t learned how to become financially independent
in the richest land that has ever been known. Why? We conform! Most of us are
acting like the wrong percentage group — the 95 who don’t succeed.
Have you ever wondered why so many people work so hard and honestly without ever
achieving anything in particular, and why others don’t seem to work hard, yet seem to
get everything? They seem to have the “magic touch.” You’ve heard people say,
“Everything he touches turns to gold.” Have you ever noticed that a person who
becomes successful tends to continue to become more successful? And, on the other
hand, have you noticed how someone who’s a failure tends to continue to fail?
The difference is goals. People with goals succeed because they know where they’re
going. It’s that simple. Failures, on the other hand, believe that their lives are shaped
by circumstances ... by things that happen to them ... by exterior forces. Think of a ship with the complete voyage mapped out and planned. The captain and
crew know exactly where the ship is going and how long it will take — it has a
definite goal. And 9,999 times out of 10,000, it will get there.
Now let’s take another ship — just like the first — only let’s not put a crew on it, or a
captain at the helm. Let’s give it no aiming point, no goal, and no destination. We just
start the engines and let it go. I think you’ll agree that if it gets out of the harbor at all,
it will either sink or wind up on some deserted beach — a derelict. It can’t go
anyplace because it has no destination and no guidance.
It’s the same with a human being. However, the human race is fixed, not to prevent
the strong from winning, but to prevent the weak from losing. Society today can be
likened to a convoy in time of war. The entire society is slowed down to protect its
weakest link, just as the naval convoy has to go at the speed that will permit its
slowest vessel to remain in formation.
That’s why it’s so easy to make a living today. It takes no particular brains or talent to
make a living and support a family today. We have a plateau of so-called “security.”
So, to succeed, all we must do is decide how high above this plateau we want to aim.
Throughout history, the great wise men and teachers, philosophers, and prophets have
disagreed with one another on many different things. It is only on this one point that
they are in complete and unanimous agreement — the key to success and the key to
failure is this:
This is The Strangest Secret! Now, why do I say it’s strange, and why do I call it a
secret? Actually, it isn’t a secret at all. It was first promulgated by some of the earliest
wise men, and it appears again and again throughout the Bible. But very few people
have learned it or understand it. That’s why it’s strange, and why for some equally
strange reason it virtually remains a secret.
Marcus Aurelius, the great Roman Emperor, said: “A man’s life is what his thoughts
make of it.”
Disraeli said this: “Everything comes if a man will only wait ... a human being with a
settled purpose must accomplish it, and nothing can resist a will that will stake even
existence for its fulfillment.”
William James said: “We need only in cold blood act as if the thing in question were
real, and it will become infallibly real by growing into such a connection with our life that it will become real. It will become so knit with habit and emotion that our
interests in it will be those which characterize belief.” He continues, “ ... only you
must, then, really wish these things, and wish them exclusively, and not wish at the
same time a hundred other incompatible things just as strongly.”
My old friend Dr. Norman Vincent Peale put it this way: “If you think in negative
terms, you will get negative results. If you think in positive terms, you will achieve
positive results.” George Bernard Shaw said: “People are always blaming their
circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get
on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want,
and if they can’t find them, make them.”
Well, it’s pretty apparent, isn’t it? We become what we think about. A person who is
thinking about a concrete and worthwhile goal is going to reach it, because that’s what
he’s thinking about. Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn’t know
where he’s going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion,
anxiety, fear, and worry will thereby create a life of frustration, fear, anxiety and
worry. And if he thinks about nothing ... he becomes nothing.
The human mind is much like a farmer’s land. The land gives the farmer a choice. He
may plant in that land whatever he chooses. The land doesn’t care what is planted. It’s
up to the farmer to make the decision. The mind, like the land, will return what you
plant, but it doesn’t care what you plant. If the farmer plants two seeds — one a seed
of corn, the other nightshade, a deadly poison, waters and takes care of the land, what
will happen?
Remember, the land doesn’t care. It will return poison in just as wonderful abundance
as it will corn. So up come the two plants — one corn, one poison as it’s written in the
Bible, “As ye sow, so shall ye reap.”
The human mind is far more fertile, far more incredible and mysterious than the land,
but it works the same way. It doesn’t care what we plant ... success ... or failure. A
concrete, worthwhile goal ... or confusion, misunderstanding, fear, anxiety, and so on.
But what we plant it must return to us.
The problem is that our mind comes as standard equipment at birth. It’s free. And
things that are given to us for nothing, we place little value on. Things that we pay
money for, we value. The paradox is that exactly the reverse is true. Everything that’s really worthwhile in
life came to us free — our minds, our souls, our bodies, our hopes, our dreams, our
ambitions, our intelligence, our love of family and children and friends and country.
All these priceless possessions are free.
But the things that cost us money are actually very cheap and can be replaced at any
time. A good man can be completely wiped out and make another fortune. He can do
that several times. Even if our home burns down, we can rebuild it. But the things we
got for nothing, we can never replace.
Our mind can do any kind of job we assign to it, but generally speaking, we use it for
little jobs instead of big ones. So decide now. What is it you want? Plant your goal in
your mind. It’s the most important decision you’ll ever make in your entire life.
Do you want to excel at your particular job? Do you want to go places in your
company ... in your community? Do you want to get rich? All you have got to do is
plant that seed in your mind, care for it, work steadily toward your goal, and it will
become a reality.
It not only will, there’s no way that it cannot. You see, that’s a law — like the laws of
Sir Isaac Newton, the laws of gravity. If you get on top of a building and jump off,
you’ll always go down — you’ll never go up.
And it’s the same with all the other laws of nature. They always work. They’re
inflexible. Think about your goal in a relaxed, positive way. Picture yourself in your
mind’s eye as having already achieved this goal. See yourself doing the things you
will be doing when you have reached your goal.
Every one of us is the sum total of our own thoughts. We are where we are because
that’s exactly where we really want or feel we deserve to be — whether we’ll admit
that or not. Each of us must live off the fruit of our thoughts in the future, because
what you think today and tomorrow — next month and next year — will mold your
life and determine your future. You’re guided by your mind.
I remember one time I was driving through eastern Arizona and I saw one of those
giant earth-moving machines roaring along the road with what looked like 30 tons of
dirt in it — a tremendous, incredible machine — and there was a little man perched
way up on top with the wheel in his hands, guiding it. As I drove along I was struck
by the similarity of that machine to the human mind. Just suppose you’re sitting at the
controls of such a vast source of energy. Are you going to sit back and fold your arms
and let it run itself into a ditch? Or are you going to keep both hands firmly on the
wheel and control and direct this power to a specific, worthwhile purpose? It’s up to you. You’re in the driver’s seat. You see, the very law that gives us success is a
double-edged sword. We must control our thinking. The same rule that can lead
people to lives of success, wealth, happiness, and all the things they ever dreamed of
— that very same law can lead them into the gutter. It’s all in how they use it … for
good or for bad. That is The Strangest Secret!
Do what the experts since the dawn of recorded history have told us to do: pay the
price, by becoming the person you want to become. It’s not nearly as difficult as
living unsuccessfully.
The moment you decide on a goal to work toward, you’re immediately a successful
person — you are then in that rare group of people who know where they’re going.
Out of every hundred people, you belong to the top five. Don’t concern yourself too
much with how you are going to achieve your goal — leave that completely to a
power greater than yourself. All you have to do is know where you’re going. The
answers will come to you of their own accord, and at the right time.
Start today. You have nothing to lose — but you have your whole life to win.
For the next 30-days follow each of these steps every day until you have achieved
your goal.
1. Write on a card what it is you want more that anything else. It may be more money.
Perhaps you’d like to double your income or make a specific amount of money. It
may be a beautiful home. It may be success at your job. It may be a particular position
in life. It could be a more harmonious family.
Write down on your card specifically what it is you want. Make sure it’s a single goal
and clearly defined. You needn’t show it to anyone, but carry it with you so that you
can look at it several times a day. Think about it in a cheerful, relaxed, positive way
each morning when you get up, and immediately you have something to work for —
something to get out of bed for, something to live for.
Look at it every chance you get during the day and just before going to bed at night.
As you look at it, remember that you must become what you think about, and since
you’re thinking about your goal, you realize that soon it will be yours. In fact, it’s
really yours the moment you write it down and begin to think about it. 2. Stop thinking about what it is you fear. Each time a fearful or negative thought
comes into your mind, replace it with a mental picture of your positive and
worthwhile goal. And there will come a time when you’ll feel like giving up. It’s
easier for a human being to think negatively than positively. That’s why only five
percent are successful! You must begin now to place yourself in that group.
“Act as though it were impossible to fail,” as Dorothea Brande said. No matter what
your goal — if you’ve kept your goal before you every day — you’ll wonder and
marvel at this new life you’ve found.
3. Your success will always be measured by the quality and quantity of service you
render. Most people will tell you that they want to make money, without
understanding this law. The only people who make money work in a mint. The rest of
us must earn money. This is what causes those who keep looking for something for
nothing, or a free ride, to fail in life. Success is not the result of making money;
earning money is the result of success — and success is in direct proportion to our
Most people have this law backwards. It’s like the man who stands in front of the
stove and says to it: “Give me heat and then I’ll add the wood.” How many men and
women do you know, or do you suppose there are today, who take the same attitude
toward life? There are millions.
We’ve got to put the fuel in before we can expect heat. Likewise, we’ve got to be of
service first before we can expect money. Don’t concern yourself with the money. Be
of service ... build ... work ... dream ... create! Do this and you’ll find there is no limit
to the prosperity and abundance that will come to you.
Don’t start your test until you’ve made up your mind to stick with it. If you should fail
during your first 30 days — by that I mean suddenly find yourself overwhelmed by
negative thoughts — simply start over again from that point and go 30 more days.
Gradually, your new habit will form, until you find yourself one of that wonderful
minority to whom virtually nothing is impossible.
Above all ... don’t worry! Worry brings fear, and fear is crippling. The only thing that
can cause you to worry during your test is trying to do it all yourself. Know that all
you have to do is hold your goal before you; everything else will take care of itself.
Take this 30-day test, then repeat it ... then repeat it again. Each time it will become
more a part of you until you’ll wonder how you could have ever have lived any other
way. Live this new way and the floodgates of abundance will open and pour over you
more riches than you may have dreamed existed. Money? Yes, lots of it. But what’s more important, you’ll have peace ... you’ll be in that wonderful minority who lead
calm, cheerful, successful lives.
Start today. You have nothing to lose. But you have a life to win.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Circumstances don't define your life...

In this life, we have choices.True, you didn't get to pick your parents, race, gender (at birth), and some physical features. There are circumstances that you don't get to choose, but you do get to choose how you respond/react to them. That's what Elizabeth Keckly did. Here is something I got off of wikipedia about her:
Elizabeth Hobbs Keckley (February 1818 – May 1907)[1] (sometimes spelled Keckly) [2] was a former slave turned successful seamstress who is most notably known as being Mary Todd Lincoln's personal modiste and confidante, and the author of her autobiography, Behind the Scenes Or, Thirty Years a Slave and Four Years in the White House. Mrs. Keckley utilized her intelligence, keen business savvy, and sewing and design skills to arrange and ultimately buy her freedom (and that of her son George as well), and later enjoyed regular business with the wives of the government elite as her base clientele.After several years in St. Louis, she moved to Washington, D.C. in the spring of 1860. Utilizing both perseverance and an ability to ingratiate herself with those of influence, she was able to distinguish herself among notable women of society in the nation's capitol who sought out her dressmaking skills. Among her clients were Varnia Davis, wife of Jefferson Davis, and Mary Anne Randolph Custis Lee, wife of Robert E. Lee.Keckly's relationship with the President's wife, Mary Todd Lincoln was the most noteworthy as it was distinguished not only by its endurance over time but the nature of the association. A mutual respect and trust was established between the two women and Keckly was not only dressmaker to the First Lady, but an invaluable confidante to Mrs. Lincoln in times of emotional crisis.
That's a general overview of her life. Yes, she was born into slavery. what this brief paragraph didn't tell you is that she was sexually abused at the age of 5. She was forced to take care of an infant at the age of 6. She learned how to sew at a young age, and when the family that owned her got into financial trouble it was her dress making that kept her and 16 other people fed. Yes, she bought her freedom. For her and her son actually. She went trhough a lot to make freedom a reality though.
So here is what you need to think about when you want to complain about your life, your circumstances, or anything else. You were not born into slavery in the 1800s.Yes, there may have been some things that happened to you that were out of your control. The key is to get busy controlling the things that you can. The harder you have it, the more you will appreciate whatever it is you are going through once it is over.
Your circumstances do not define you. They simply show the world who you really are. You can be the type of person to complain and give in, or you can be like Elizabeth Keckly and fight for what you belive in until it becomes a reality!